Sadie and Jarvis Sampson struggled for years to conceive—they tried everything until they gave up and accepted their fate as aunt and uncle until they got a text that altered their lives forever.
The pair had been attempting to conceive since their January 2018 wedding, but when that didn’t work out, they tried everything else.
“Ovulation tests, pregnancy supplements, period tracking apps, and fertility trackers,” added the Houston mom.
We attempted, but failed, to heed unwanted advice from friends, family, and strangers. For 14 months, we tried, prayed, and waited. Month after month, year after year, Another negative pregnancy test is performed after a negative pregnancy test. We looked like we might need medical assistance in order to conceive. We went so far as to discuss it with doctors.
Doctors didn’t appear to be of much use to the pair. They all persuaded Sadie that if she lost weight, she would be able to conceive, so with no other options, she underwent gastric surgery and lost 28 pounds.
Sadie’s OBGYN was ecstatic about her weight loss and told her she was proud of her.
“She said she’d send me to a fertility expert if I wasn’t pregnant in six months since she couldn’t prescribe me fertility drugs,” Sadie revealed. “I was ecstatic about that. Finally, something other than a negative response! We were ecstatic to get a ‘not right now.’ “
Unfortunately, the couple did not become pregnant after Sadie dropped weight, and they felt like they were back where they started.
“I’d always felt called to be a mother,” Sadie explained. “My surgeon had spent so much time warning me about how fertile I would be following surgery, yet I was still not pregnant.” As a result, we gave up. We recognized we were only meant to be godparents to our goddaughters and aunts and uncles to our nieces. “
Sadie got a text from a friend asking if they would consider fostering a baby that a couple she knew was contemplating for their baby, just as the couple had chosen to give up their sad attempts to conceive.
The couple was at first apprehensive since they were urged by a caseworker to look after the infant while the mother got therapy. The couple was concerned that they might become too attached to the child. However, the story was soon altered.
The caseworker said, “The birth mother decided she wanted you people to adopt the child instead.”
“‘Holy crap!!’ “I exclaimed aloud when I found out I was going to be a mom,” Sadie remembered.
“Overnight, we went from not having any children to considering fostering one to being told, ‘You guys are parents!’ Still in astonishment, I listened to the caseworker speak. I got off the phone and dialed my husband’s number! ‘Babe!! They’d like us to adopt the child! They want us to have children, ‘I said. “Wait! REALLY?! He said, “I thought they only wanted us to nurture him!” ‘Nope! “They want us to be his mother and father,” I explained.
The couple spent the weekend processing the surprising news while also bracing for the possibility that the mother might change her mind.
Their baby son was delivered seven weeks early, at 33 weeks. He weighed 4 lbs. 5 oz. Sadie remarked, “He actually fit in one of my husband’s palms.”
“He was so small,” Sadie said, “swaddled in a white blanket with pink and blue patterns.” “Because he was early, he couldn’t feed on his own and had an NG tube going out of his nose. But, boy, was he adorable!!!
The pair announced their engagement on social media and received encouragement to create a registry. They advertised 72 items, and 55 were purchased within three days.
Ezra Lee’s adoption was finalized in October 2020, and the pair had the cutest family photographs done wearing t-shirts that said: “families don’t have to match.”
In 2021, Sadie and Jarvis became parents to twin girls, Journee and Destinee, through embryo donation. The black couple had three white children, a boy, and two daughters while maintaining their family concept that “families don’t have to match.”
Anyone who judges this lovely family has only one response: their family is based on the most solid foundation imaginable: love.